Monday, November 23, 2009

Baby Moon

We are jetting off this week to an undisclosed location for a 10 day last-hurrah-vacation, just the two of us, before the baby arrives. Instead of heading to the usual thanksgiving with family, we are ditching both sides of the family and heading to a tropical paradise. I was told by someone that this is our "babymoon," which I suppose is the honeymoon before the baby arrives. It's one of those terms that would have irritated the hell out of me if some pregnant lady ever chirped to me "We're going on our babymoon!" But like so many other circumstances right now, my usual abrasive reactions are watering down. I can see the sweetness of the term.

In 2007, I spent thanksgiving miscarrying while eating turkey. In 2008, I was thankful that I was not miscarrying over turkey dinner. And in 2009, obviously I am thankful for this baby, but frankly I am also just thankful that none of this killed me. I mean how many holidays have I spent miserable and in despair? I always dreamed of being able to spend thanksgiving sitting at the table with my family, piling my plate with the harvest of foods, looking down at my pregnant belly, or another scenario - I am stuffing my face with mash potatoes and I raise my glass at the table and say, "We have an announcement to make, we are pregnant!" Well, that never came true, and it never will. So instead of trying to create this fantasy thanksgiving I have been waiting to have, we are reinventing it by getting the hell out of here. We will begin a new kind of thanksgiving next year when we can celebrate with our own child sitting right next to us at the table.

Happy thanksgiving to all of you. Peace and good eating!

11 comments:

VI said...
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Me said...

I think your idea is simply grand!

Sue said...

Have lots of fun on your vacation - next year will be even better!

Expectant Duck said...

Happy Thanksgiving hun. So can relate about those fantasies, and well I got a new lease on life now and I say F*ck the fantasies, let them have sex and have babies (and divorce when their marriage is stale).
We can have the challenges and the wine while expecting (and at 30 weeks pregnant you can go to a tropical island and drink rum). So take the small surrogacy graces where you can get them, we are lucky, no heartbreak this season(all things crossed for us).
Enjoy your time on the beach.

Shinejil said...

This is an awesome idea! Relish your trip and the exciting cusp of this huge transition.

Flower said...

I hope yall have a great time.

JellyBelly said...

Bon voyage Tabi! I can't wait to hear about your adventures!

the Babychaser: said...

I spent my thanksgiving suffering from nausea, cramps, and a wicked headache. (Luckily we'd already canceled all plans, due to exhaustion.) And you know what? Best Thanksgiving I've had in four years. And I'm not dreading Christmas the way I have for the past four years, either.

The future scares the hell out of me, but at least life is MOVING again.

Happy babymoon!

robinchollaway said...
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Abbey said...

Thank you for your blog. It has helped to calm my shattered nerves, quieten my wailing heart and most of all it has restored hope to my soul for the future and the possibilities life holds if we are willing to challenge it. xx

FET Accompli said...

Happy Thanksgiving - enjoy the babymoon!!