tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post8408204136378117578..comments2023-09-21T12:02:16.904-04:00Comments on The Art of Being Infertile: An Outlaw called "Intended Parent"TABIhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17012958263294398438noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-67395252249283224782008-09-17T13:50:00.000-04:002008-09-17T13:50:00.000-04:00Wow, thank you for sharing this. I had no idea tha...Wow, thank you for sharing this. I had no idea that some states forbid it! Are we living in the dark ages, or what?<BR/><BR/>I hope you find a way.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-42314307988629396422008-08-15T18:53:00.000-04:002008-08-15T18:53:00.000-04:00I wish you all the best. I'm no where near to thi...I wish you all the best. I'm no where near to this point yet (2yrs ttc), but I have been keeping the surrogates in India as a last resort thought. I saw a tv program and it's less than $7k. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-29062070956683569592008-08-13T22:23:00.000-04:002008-08-13T22:23:00.000-04:00Surrogacy is complicated enough as it is without u...Surrogacy is complicated enough as it is without uncooperative states barring it from those who need it. Thankfully, there are ways around the laws, even if they add other layers of complication, time, and expense to the process. Thankfully, there are several states around the NY area that do not prohibit surrogacy. The NY laws are completely circumvented when working with a surrogate and clinic located in surrogacy-friendly states. <BR/><BR/>It's a new label for a new path, but hopefully at the end there will be a new outcome, and "intended mother" will be just "mother."JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-87907862946026299462008-08-13T15:10:00.000-04:002008-08-13T15:10:00.000-04:00I'm with you my intended mother buddy. I too used ...I'm with you my intended mother buddy. I too used to be a board whore and now can't even go on them, there doesn't seem to be much action in the beyond infertile category, it's lonely again now that i don't have board buddies.<BR/>As for jail, you and me both, it's legal in canada to do surrogacy, you just can't pay beynod 15k for it... so they may drag us off in handcuffss too!Nadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08219960725085412879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-87696920610220493042008-08-13T10:58:00.000-04:002008-08-13T10:58:00.000-04:00Jesus. As if this wasn't hard enough already! Wh...Jesus. As if this wasn't hard enough already! When I was a kid, and would whine to my mom about how unfair something was, the invariable response was, "Nobody ever said the world was fair."<BR/><BR/>I didn't really believe it, though. Not until I learned what life could dish out to me, and you, and so many of us I read about. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure you can find away around the NY laws, but I think it totally sucks that you have to add yet another complication to your list. Do you think this is what Hillary meant when she said "it takes a village?"the Babychaser:https://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-40011314808533741082008-08-12T13:28:00.000-04:002008-08-12T13:28:00.000-04:00I am so sorry you have to jump through all these h...I am so sorry you have to jump through all these hoops! Its just so unbelievable. I hope you are matched soon and that things go really smoothly. I am excited for your sentenceing, I am realy hoping it brings you a child :)aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15026378388609134143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-39031537868068344092008-08-12T09:35:00.000-04:002008-08-12T09:35:00.000-04:00Oh Tabi! As if your journey to motherhood wasn't ...Oh Tabi! As if your journey to motherhood wasn't already painful and complicated enough...<BR/><BR/>I hope that you manage to find a way through this legal minefield, and that you will soon be able to fulfill your intentions.Ms Heathenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06404067891155971103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-22640984814039293502008-08-12T09:15:00.000-04:002008-08-12T09:15:00.000-04:00Yikes, I'm sorry this is all so complicated legall...Yikes, I'm sorry this is all so complicated legally. I had no idea some state prohibit these arrangements. <BR/><BR/>This makes it all the more painful. I'm sorry you have to experience this pain.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-32909100528055569982008-08-11T20:13:00.000-04:002008-08-11T20:13:00.000-04:00I didn't realize that about NY. I'm in NJ, and yo...I didn't realize that about NY. I'm in NJ, and you aren't allowed to be a compensated surrogate, but you can use one. So, can you just use one from a different state?<BR/><BR/>I am about to start this journey as a surrogate for my sister, who was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and will most probably have to go through chemo. I'll be following along your journey. I hope you find a way to make your dream a realityCabahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18427538361666362366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-36159971435182122122008-08-11T19:46:00.000-04:002008-08-11T19:46:00.000-04:00wish I could be on that jury. wishing you well wi...wish I could be on that jury. wishing you well with your intention.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.com