tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post6855092011093940811..comments2023-09-21T12:02:16.904-04:00Comments on The Art of Being Infertile: AMA: Advanced Maternal Age or just Appearing More Advanced?TABIhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17012958263294398438noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-33834533842650790602009-08-15T01:44:44.069-04:002009-08-15T01:44:44.069-04:00you probably already decided what to do by now, so...you probably already decided what to do by now, so I just wanted to lend my support for whatever your decision. <br /><br />K asked if we wanted her to do an amnio when she was just 20yo, and we all thought the risk of m/c and stress to her were far worse than the chances of a problem being detected. and of course, then what? I realize adoption is different, but you get where I'm going, right?<br /><br />anyway, be at peace with whatever you decide.lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15455301696832647867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-46962590178818137772009-08-15T00:09:33.563-04:002009-08-15T00:09:33.563-04:00I was 36 when I got pregnant with my own eggs (IVF...I was 36 when I got pregnant with my own eggs (IVF). The geneticist said he wouldn't recommend amino based soley on my age. I did the AFP and the nuchal scan and used the results from those two tests to decide against the amnio. I doubt this helps but thought I would share my experience. Sorry this is another source of stress. All the best to you.Navigating The Rapidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136888490226094765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-32960482375969441022009-08-13T23:04:49.169-04:002009-08-13T23:04:49.169-04:00I wish I had even one single shred of advice. But...I wish I had even one single shred of advice. But I don't. Just wishes that you find the answer that's right for you and then don't look back.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-26827823558740383032009-08-13T11:49:26.453-04:002009-08-13T11:49:26.453-04:00Amnio wasn't even suggested for me with my DE ...Amnio wasn't even suggested for me with my DE pregnancy. We just did the level 2 ultrasound and the quad screen, with all risks calculated based on the age of our 21 year old donor. Would you be asking for amnio if it hadn't been offered? Good luck with your decision. Whatever you do will be the right choice for you.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08188110112312139648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-67829483170575372642009-08-13T08:41:46.817-04:002009-08-13T08:41:46.817-04:00What about doing the level II ultrasound and quad ...What about doing the level II ultrasound and quad screen, if it would help you feel less concerned? Neither has the risks of amnio or CVS, and together you'd be less likely to get a disturbing false positive. <br /><br />The chance of Downs in a 26 yo is way lower than the chance of m/c from an amnio, from what I've read.<br /><br />We personally skipped the tests, though I'm 34 (in part because insurance refused to cover anything). I thought the anxiety these tests often provoke would be worse for me than chancing having a special needs kid. But we're in different boats here, so I understand your worries and confusion about what's the best option. <br /><br />Whatever you choose, I hope you find reassurance, continued support from your care provider, and lots of things to be excited about in the coming weeks.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-25469678547904865052009-08-12T22:46:51.184-04:002009-08-12T22:46:51.184-04:00I'm shocked that you're being pressured to...I'm shocked that you're being pressured to do an amnio. I'm 46 and carrying a child conceived with a 23 year old's egg. Amnio was NEVER on the table. The risk of the amnio is coniderably higher than the risk of anything being wrong with my daughter. My OB <i>asked</i> if I wanted a nuchal scan. I had the nuchal and bloodwork at 12 weeks and further bloodwork at 16 weeks. All the results were terrific. No need whatsoever for the big, scary amnio needle.<br /><br />AMA, my ass! Sounds like that dr is not at all well informed.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16255190971670471758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-11480626265976604642009-08-12T21:39:47.531-04:002009-08-12T21:39:47.531-04:00Maybe you could start out with the less invasive t...Maybe you could start out with the less invasive tests - our doctors were able to tell us with "close to certainty" that our babes did not have down syndrome, and we did not do an amnio.FET Accomplihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04022601632796340799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-55859015492837802592009-08-12T20:40:34.633-04:002009-08-12T20:40:34.633-04:00One reason that doctors tell those of us of advanc...One reason that doctors tell those of us of advanced maternal age to use donor eggs is that our chances of success take on the odds of the age of the donor. Whereas my chances of success with my 48 yr old eggs are practically nil, our 24 yr old donor has a much higher chance of success. At the same time, her eggs also of a much lower chance of producing a child with a birth defect, unlike my much greater chance. Given that, it sounds like the OB treating your surrogate (whose age has no bearing in this particular decision) really doesn't understand ART and how the odds work.<br /><br />Sorry you've been placed in this position. But thrilled you're at 15w6d. Good luck.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03154636161249104743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4334852929340917200.post-12112851156489248632009-08-12T19:40:35.067-04:002009-08-12T19:40:35.067-04:00Big choices. Not ones I would like to think about ...Big choices. Not ones I would like to think about too much (can't they do the less advanced tests - no amnio?). Uggh.<br />It is nice that the doctor is treating you like the person you are (the mom)! <br />As always, excited for you!Nadinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08219960725085412879noreply@blogger.com